I didn’t expect them to live forever, and death is nobody’s fault regardless of smoking, bad diets, no exercise, or whatever. The death of a loved on is heartbreaking.
The pain is more intense when you thought the other person loved you, but he expectation of returned love isn’t necessary for the heartbreak. Heartbreak can come from being rejected by the one you love. Heartbreak is what happens when love is lost. There may be failures within the relationship-indeed, there certainly will be, for we are imperfect vessels to hold the love of another person-but the failures didn’t cause the heartbreak. There may be expectations, both met and unmet, in a relationship that ends in heartbreak. My heart can be broken ply by someone (or something, like my dog, though a part of me really believes my dog is a person) to whom I have given my heart. Heartbreak comes from the loss of love or the perceived loss of love. Disappointment doesn’t grow into heartbreak, nor does failure. Heartbreak is an altogether different thing. The brokenhearted are the bravest among us-they dared to love. It hurts in an entirely different way because heartbreak is always connected to love and belonging. Heartbreak is more than just a particularly hard form of disappointment or failure. Now, before weekends, vacations, or even busy school or work weeks, we talk about expectations. We just tend to blame each other for our disappointment when they’re not realized. What we never do is make those expectations explicit. We set all kinds of wild expectations about getting stuff done. I give up my to-do list.” -Steve (Rising Strong p 141) “When it’s just me with the kids, I have no expectations for getting my own stuff done. Brene Brown, Rising Strong p 139Įxpectations are resentments waiting to happen.
Brene Brown, Rising Strong p 139Įxpectations often coast along under our radar, making themselves known only after they have bombed something we had high hopes for into trouble. We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend. Rising Strong Chapter Seven: The Brave and Brokenhearted
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